Words carry a mysterious power. A poorly chosen phrase can destroy a relationship in an instant. The mere absence of words can slowly erode a once-close friendship. Just a few words of encouragement can instill someone with profound confidence and strength.
Most of us (at our best) want to deliver the latter, using words to empower others and build our relationships, but choosing the right words is easier said than done. According to a recent survey from Preply, a language learning marketplace, 60% of Americans find that the encouragement they receive is often insincere or cliché, falling short of its intended effect.
More importantly, Preply’s research also revealed the types of words and phrases people most like to hear. Hidden within those findings are some insights to help you find the right words at the right moment.
We instinctively know that encouraging words have immense power, and the research backs this up. Studies have shown correlations between encouragement and improved performance among athletes and students. Well-chosen words can boost our confidence and self-esteem, enabling us to persevere when facing setbacks or challenges.
According to Preply’s survey, which gathered feedback from almost 1,000 US adults ages 18 to 76, not all attempts at encouragement are created equal. A few phrases seem to carry more weight.
In relationships, the most encouraging phrases are:
I love you. (72% of respondents chose this)
I appreciate everything you do. (51%)
I’m proud of you. (48%)
I’m grateful to have you in my life. (48%)
At work, we tend to look for different forms of encouragement, such as:
Great job! (50%)
You’re doing a fantastic job. (47%)
Keep up the good work. (39%)
Sometimes, it’s as simple as a single word. The survey showed that “love,” “trust,” “strong,” “help” and “hope” are all particularly potent.
For many, those tried-and-true statements contrast sharply with more recent expressions. According to those surveyed, some attempts at encouragement fall flat. The biggest culprits?